When Silence is Deadly

Texas welcome center in Denton, TX

For many Texas-Mexicans (Tejanos), it’s the silence of our friends and our neighbors that are Trump supporters that is killing us.  Tragically, until last Saturday, it was figurative – how can they stay silent? How can they believe this bullshit? Then, everything changed in a moment, when a white man drove 11 hours from North Texas to murder people just like us in El Paso.  He felt empowered to murder us in cold blood in our cars, while fundraising for our children’s’ soccer teams, and simply grocery shopping, because we were brown.

My question to you – to the people I love that are Trump supporters – is when will you use your power to push back on the ugliness that comes out of our President’s mouth?  When will you force him to be a President for all American citizens, not just his base.

The Beauty of South Texas

South Texas is magical. It is and will always be my home, even when I don’t live there. It is where my family lives, where I grew up, where my heart is.

What makes South Texas so special has so much to do with its people. It is and I hope always will be one of those special places where people of different backgrounds, different cultures, and different races came together and proved that it is our diversity that makes us stronger.

As you travel from El Paso to Corpus Christi, along the Rio Grande and up the Gulf Coast, you have community after community of majority Tejano communities, but with Irish and German families all brought together. The Irish, German, Polish and Czech families settled in the region after the war with Mexico and became absorbed into the fabric of life in south Texas to create a culture that is uniquely different. From the Tex-Mex cuisine, to Tejano music (which is a fusion of classical Mexican music fused with Polka,) to the Texas-Spanish dialect, not English, not Spanish, but something in between.

South Texas is where I grew up side-by-side with neighbors, white and brown, that even when we disagreed with each other on fundamentally important issues, we found a way to be friends.

And then Trump happened…

In 2015, as Trump’s momentum grew, Mexican-Americans throughout the country, along with many, many others, were horrified with the language that Trump used to speak about minorities and immigrants. It was clear that he had racist tendencies, and it was also becoming clear that the people that believed in the rhetoric he was screaming about was allowing some of the worst in America to rise up.

For many of Tejanos in South Texas, his language around Mexicans and migrants hit home.  The migrant workers he berated were our aunts and uncles, our friends and family. The “rapists and criminals” he decried – were they US? Who were they?

Yet, we watched as some of friends, our family, started to embrace Trump. They rationalized his language as strong but accurate. Maybe he could say it in a better way but in your minds it was true. Some of you agreed with his economic policies. Some of you just like his style – loud, brash, angry.

Over the last four years, in a community in which color never mattered before, I started to see a divide – driven by a single polarizing figure.  And it hurt. It hurt because you could not understand the angst and the fear that we felt.  You could not understand that we are less then a full generation away from Jim Crow laws being repealed.  The scars of institutionalized racism still sit on the shoulders of my father, my aunts and uncles, even if they don’t talk about what it meant to be marginalized and segregated.

We saw something ugly and terrifying starting to build, supported by Trump’s words and actions, and had no idea what it could mean.

Now we see what could be

So, here we are.  The country mourns three mass shootings in less than a week. El Paso was clearly a hate crime, focused on the brown people that Trump has spent the last four years targeting.  As the shooter targeted the Mexican invasion at a border town, it did not matter if the brown person he shot was an American citizen or not. It didn’t matter if his victim’s families had been here for generations or were literally just visiting for the day. All that mattered to him was the color of their skin, and he felt justified thanks to the words of his President.

Trump has proven over and over and over again that he is not here to be an American president. He is here for his base, and candidly, whether they admit it or not, those that he is appealing have a problem with minorities.  They are the people who cheer “send her back.” They are the ones that believe in this “Mexican invasion” fallacy – which simple statistics (real DATA) clearly disproves.  That is a real fact, versus Trump’s alternative facts.

However, there are many who support Trump because you support the larger Republican platform.  He needs you to get elected too, yet you aren’t his base.  You know his language is wrong. You know his lying is immoral. You recognize his divisiveness is hurting this country. How far will you let it go before you take a stand?

My plea to my Republican friends and family

Speak up! Give your elected leaders the courage to stand up to Trump.  Stand up for your friends, your family, that he has put in danger with his inflammatory language.

My Republican friends hate the connection that non-Trump supporters make between the American president today and Hitler.  But, look to history to understand why the comparison matters.

My grandmother grew up in Nazi Germany. She lived through the war as a child. And she is scared. She is also a Republican who watches Fox News.  Her take as our country has changed in the last few years is simple.

It was the silence of the German majority that allowed Hitler’s power to grow until it was too late. Then, no one could speak up.

Trump does not care about those that don’t support him. My voice in his mind is silenced already. But your voice could matter.  Take a stand, force him to be accountable, push him to be the President that you thought he might be able to be originally.

Speak up!  Stand up!  


I Believe in US

It has been a long week in this country.  We are still coming to terms with what a Trump Presidency could mean over the next four years. But I am taking a stand today. I’m stepping forward. I’m moving forward. I’m standing up for US. Continue reading “I Believe in US”

Dear Mr. Trump


I published this several months ago after being struck by the emotion and power and love that our country felt for Muhammad Ali. Ironically, this was before Trump’s suggested “ban on Muslims” so now I feel this is even more relevant.

Today, even if Trump won the election, most of us our terrified for the future of our country. No one WON in this election, least of all the country.  Today for many of us, the question we ask ourselves is “what do we tell our children.”

Note – unlike Trump loyalists, democrats aren’t crying foul. We aren’t insisting the election is rigged. We aren’t spewing hate at each other. We are heartbroken, frightened, shocked, and scared. But we will not give up. Because Trump’s America, at least as he described it during his election, is not our America and now as president, he MUST aspire to represent all of us.

So, I have a question for Mr. Trump, and I leave it Mr. Trump, because he has not earned my trust or my respect yet. He isn’t my president yet. Though I acknowledge that in several months, he will be.

I ask him -What kind of leader will he be…


Dear Mr. Trump:

Today, as I watched Good Morning America, there were two back-to-back segments. One was on politics and one was on the Ali memorial in Louisville. One spoke about your team fighting your recorded deposition being made public from the Trump University debacle, and the other showed people lining the streets of Louisville to welcome one of their favorite sons home – larger than life even as he made his final journey, but still the poor, skinny boy who began boxing because someone stole his bike and he couldn’t fight back. Continue reading “Dear Mr. Trump”

Hope vs. Hate – I Am Afraid

Old American flag background for Memorial Day or 4th of July Source: Big Stock Photos

Today, I am afraid. We are four days away from the Presidential election and things have never been tighter.

As Americans, we must consider two candidates for president that are far from perfect.  For many of us, the choice has become a choice founded in our moral beliefs as much as our logical thoughts on who will be best for the country.  Continue reading “Hope vs. Hate – I Am Afraid”

Where have the true leaders gone?

Not advocating the book b/c I haven't read it. Just a good pic.
Borrowed image from the website: http://www.peaceandjustice.org/deeply-divided

I’ve been troubled over the last few weeks and months as the presidential candidates have become bigger and bigger news.  Next year, most of us will go to the polls and elect the president that will bring our country into the next decade.  If the law of averages applies, the new president will likely serve two terms, which will make he or she one of the key influencers of the world that my children will grow up in.  They will have a hand in shaping  the world that my kids hope to succeed in.

Yet, I am terrified of the options that we have.  We are looking at a race – both Democratic and Republican – in which no single candidate seems truly capable of leading a divided nation.  And, after the last eight years, we are truly divided.  In my lifetime, I have never seen the country split so decisively into socioeconomic and racial lines.

Barack Obama’s presidency gave so many people hope in 2008, but it also fully exposed the racial and religious fractures that America has never really healed.  The Civil Rights movement changed things in the 60s, but I think that most would agree that we have still have a lot of work to do in this country.  Our country and its citizens, founded on the tenets of equality for all and freedom of speech and religion, often seem to believe that applies if a person believes in the same things that they do and articulate it the same way.

Inherently, I think Americans have lost the ability to discuss our differences and compromise, and it is a skill that we desperately need to relearn.  This is my opinion, and you are allowed to disagree.  That’s the point!!!

My opinion is founded in observing the huge popularity of the Tea Party movement after Obama’s election in 2008 and their continued success in 2012.  In watching Ted Cruz gain his national platform through stalling the entire government system through a filibuster. But rather than using his time to offer real ideas and solutions that could lead to change, he read a silly children’s book and wasted hours of taxpayers dollars and time.   In essence, he had the adult political equivalent of a 2-year old tantrum, yet it made him famous…

It comes from watching a significant portion of the Republican party embrace a candidate like Donald Trump – who absolutely terrifies me for what he’s doing to the country now.  While he preaches bigotry and hate, bullying and ignorance, no one mentions that he has used bankruptcy as a tool that enabled his personal wealth to grow while eliminated at least $1 billion in debt.  He has not offered one realistic policy that America can enact in the real world. Not one! He is bluster and ego and nothing more.  He doesn’t even know how to use his money for the greater good – he was deemed the least charitable billionaire in the country earlier this year.  How has he gotten so far???

I see how Fox News anchors, and many other news programs as well, blast anyone that they disagree with and utilize fear as a weapon for ratings.  In the last month, I’ve sat down with two woman that I love dearly that are avid Fox News watchers and listened as they spotted off one half-truth after another as if it were gospel while they explained why the feel the world is falling apart. It seems that Fox is smart enough to ensure that every sensational story has at least one verifiable fact.

The Democratic party isn’t perfect either! I absolutely acknowledge that. If anything, it’s the lack of viable Democratic candidates beyond Hillary Clinton and Bernie Sanders that illustrates the party challenges. No other democrats have really led and driven change in the last 8 years because they were so afraid of rocking the boat. They’ve lost their voice and need to find it again.

I’m writing this today because I feel it. It truly is my opinion.  In 2016, I don’t know who I will vote for – as long as it isn’t Trump or Cruz because I just can’t few them as “real” candidates.

I hope my opinion starts a dialogue.  A respectful dialogue where we can say what we think and not be called bad names or labeled as “stupid” because we disagree.  I want to learn from you just as you can learn from.